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#71 Whose In Your Ear:Show Up For Your Life! Motivational Message - Andy Henriquez 

This past Thursday, +AndyHenriquez hosted his usual Motivational Message on YouTube via live stream, this is something that he has been doing for years. From time to time I have  joined his live stream and took in a few precious jems of knowledge along they way. In his motivational message, he stated that sometimes you have to cut folks out of your life in order for your growth to happen. Because of the attitude and or behavior towards you it does nothing for you and takes more energy to be around them than not. Even if the individuals are family cut the dead weight off if it is not doing anything for you. His statement right there, gave me reassurance in knowing this is something that I need to do in order to get to the next level. 

Since, the new year started I found myself questioning why I am I even dealing with you after talking to certain family members and friends of my inner circle. It feels like a burden to even pick up the phone because, I know all it will be is worry, doom and gloom. Or calling me when everything is going fucked up so you can dumb all your emotional baggage on me, and when everything is smooth sailing I hear nothing from you, and one of my top pet peeves calling me only because you want to use my brain.


Which, Andy spoke about as well, he asked "Why are you continuously interacting with someone who drains your energy ", "What purpose does it serve you to deal with all of that negativity", knowing that having that person in your ear is going to do more damage than good. 

For me all I know is dysfunction. That is what was shown to me via family and close family friends growing up. So I adopted the same behavior pattern and with that I accepted it when it was done to me. It now has become a sick co-dependency on my part. The negative thoughts were being fed by the words of the people who are in my ear. 

Now, I can not take it any more, I can not and will not deal with emotional dumping. I can not and will not deal with accepting the sick co-dependent of negativity that I have allowed myself to become. With, Andy's  message he helped me stand firm in my movements of letting go of family and friends whose words and actions are not there to encourage my growth. 
Being who I am, I will feel bad for not being there in the same way I was so used to being (emotional dumping ground). 

It's a new chapter of my life, better yet a new life all together. Knowing that it is ok for me not to be that person whose energy  drained dealing with others "stuff". It is ok for you to walk away from what you know to be a bad for your personal growth. It is ok to want better and be more. It is ok to out grow your friends, it is ok to show up for your life .


I encourage you to watch the video, and subscribe to his YouTube channel.



Afrikah












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